How To Break Free From Codependency

10 Tips to discover your self-worth and fall in love with yourself

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1. Become aware of your codependent behavior

The first step to recover and heal from codependency is to become aware of your behaviors. When you learn about your codependent behaviors it will be easier for you to work on changing them.

  • Rescuing and fixing others gives you a sense of purpose and makes you feel valued
  • You ignore your needs and feelings and focus on helping other people
  • It’s not the first time you imposed your unsolicited advice
  • You tend to be controlling and clingy
  • Feelings of guilt and shame overwhelm you especially if you fail to help others
  • You often feel worried and anxious
  • You are overly critical of yourself
  • You feel responsible for other people’s feelings
  • You don’t know have a strong sense of self and a strong opinion
  • You don’t know what you like, how you feel or what is important to you
  • Your people-pleasing tendencies drive you to sacrifice your needs
  • You struggle to set solid boundaries and to be assertive
  • You struggle with intimacy and trusting others
  • Decision making and self-trust are not your forte
  • You fear abandonment in relationships which can lead to abusive relationships
  • You are sensitive to criticism and fear rejection
  • You don’t know your self-worth and seek validation from others
  • You struggle to adapt to change which leads to a lack of flexibility

2. Understand your actions

Our actions and behaviors are determined by how we think and how we feel. Understanding what triggers these kinds of actions is crucial to understand ourselves better and fix codependency.

3. Discover your attachment style

Your attachment style defines what kind of people you are attracted to, and how you communicate in a relationship. There are 4 types of attachment styles according to attachment theory: Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive Avoidant, Fearful Avoidant (Disorganized).

4. Build up your self-esteem

Developing healthy self-esteem is an essential step when it comes to fixing codependency. Codependents struggle with self-worth and seek validation from other people.

5. Date yourself

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6. Set boundaries

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7. Be your own hero

A common trait in codependents is wanting to rescue and be someone else’s hero. By fixing and helping others, they feel better about themselves as they feel needed. They’re always focused on serving others. As a result, they don’t focus on their goals or they don’t think that they are capable of achieving them.

8. Challenge yourself

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9. Learn something new

Learning new skills is a way of investing in yourself. Codependents most often don’t even know what they would like to learn or what they are interested in. But this is an exciting period as you are on a journey of self-discovery.

10. Seek support and guidance

Learning how to fix and recover from codependency can seem challenging and overwhelming.

Why should you learn how to fix codependency?

Recovering from codependency is truly an exciting journey of self-discovery. This kind of transformation improves the relationship with yourself, with friends, and also your romantic relationships. You learn the difference between interdependence vs codependency in relationships which is based on trust and true intimacy.

  • strong sense of self
  • knowing your self-worth
  • autonomy and self-reliance
  • setting and achieving goals
  • self-empowerment and healthy self-esteem
  • setting solid boundaries
  • protecting yourself from abusive people
  • improving the quality of your relationships



I’m a Life Purpose Coach helping freedom seekers create their dream life.

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